My Realitea with Raul

This week I sit down with Raul and talk about myself. It isn’t the direction I thought the episode would go but it was the direction it needed. We recorded this just days after losing someone very close to me. I found him and had to explain to his family that he’s no longer with us, so we talk about grief and tragedy and a little bit more about my story and where I come from. So enjoy this raw vulnerable and slightly angry episode and get to know me a little better. 

Summary/Time Stamps: 

• Introduction to this week's episode. 0:04
  • Welcome to this week's episode of jacking reality.
  • Loss of john wilkie.
• What happens when you lose someone you care about and people want to make it about them. 2:01
  • The speculation and speculation surrounding the death of her husband.
  • People who make it about them.
  • Being sensitive and supportive to those who are suffering.
  • The one thing she'll never understand.
  • Taking a moment to say to that person what they need.
  • Grief is hard and hard.
• My life is marked with tragedy. 9:06
  • Tragedy is what marks all of her timestamps.
  • Tragic events in her life.
  • The impact of the death of her mother.
  • The fallout from her mother's death.
• How he coped with his grandfather’s death as a kid. 12:26
  • Uncle bob was not well.
  • Grandfather died on Thanksgiving morning.
  • Being part of a family with four sisters.
  • Being the weird kid in the closet.
  • Being curious about how people fit in.
  • How she dealt with her grandfather passing.
• What it was like to be 12 to be told “you can’t know this”. 18:59
  • Being told no and being told no.
  • How anna reacted to her aunt's death.
  • The gift of life being too short.
  • The first funeral he attended.
• What else do you not know about your family? 22:53
  • Tragedy and tragedy in the family.
  • The story of how uncle joe showed up in Jamaica.
  • Uncle joe's last name was never discussed.
  • Grieving the loss of his grandfather.
• How to deal with the loss. 28:00
  • Holding on to the what is.
  • Keeping him at arm's length.
  • Waves of grief are at times untenable.
  • The tools she has developed to deal with grief.
• The skills he’s learned from losing so many family members. 32:58
  • Losing three siblings in less than a year.
  • Best friend's dad died in high school.
• The blessing of having a big family. 35:21
  • The blessing of having a huge family.
  • How 40 years of loss has changed her perspective.
  • The gift of being a people pleaser.
  • The loss of her ex-husband.
• When you know you’re the shit right now.