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Touch of the Tism - Part 2

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The conversation continues on this episode of Ducking Realitea’s Touch of the Tism: Part Two, where host Siobhan and her guests Danielle and Holly are joined by another familiar voice, Donna. This time, they dive even deeper into the realities of bartending in the Bay Area, sharing the chaos, the comedy, and the unwritten rules that come with life behind the bar.

From the do’s and don’ts of tipping to the frustration of string ordering, they break down the etiquette that every bar regular should know. They swap stories about handling difficult customers, the legal risks of overserving, and the strange ways military presence has shaped local bar culture. Things get even more interesting when Siobhan calls out a guest for being secretive about her ideas, Danielle and Donna share their go-to tactics for shutting down problematic customers, and a jaw-dropping story emerges about a $13,000 bar tab.

It’s a mix of humor, hard truths, and a behind-the-scenes look at an industry that’s equal parts exhilarating and exhausting. Whether you’ve worked behind the bar or just love a good bar story, this one’s worth a listen. Grab a drink, pull up a seat, and join the conversation.

Unknown:

Angry women in the Bay Area,

Danielle:

but this next podcast is going to be angry women in the world

Unknown:

woke up this morning is going to be about bartending, how to handle uh, part times. I just like, you know, I to be fair, you can record this, hunker, um, I think my girlfriend's coming home. I'm not sure she's very sick right now. I talked to my mother in law. She was very positive about this. But to be fair, like I might not see my partner for another month, and it's eating up a side, of course, but she told me. She said, Hey, babe, you know you're you're a good person. Come see when you can do your thing. I don't like doing my thing when she's not there, so let's just have a fun podcast. It's not necessarily about we can. We can make our first podcast a whole nother podcast. Let's just talk about bartending, and how does the Barton? Because there's a possibility, am I not here? In six months,

Siobhan:

we'll figure it out, and we'll all be here to help and support however we can, and we'll get tested and see what we can give her

Unknown:

so far as positive. But

Siobhan:

that's scary

Unknown:

again. She told me to do this tonight. I wouldn't done if she didn't tell me, but

Siobhan:

I had no idea she was so sick. Holly, I'm sorry,

Unknown:

but a couple days,

Danielle:

well, now that you do have a support system, no,

Unknown:

guys, this is just like a few like weird, emotional

Danielle:

things. Of course, a long day, it's understandable to

Unknown:

have fun. But go have fun. Yeah,

Siobhan:

of course, I do apologize. No, don't apologize for having her feelings. Yeah, we thank you for feeling comfortable enough to share it with us and to be letting us Yeah, and letting us be here for you. Oh, it's just a fun let's get you another Jamison, and you can both pee. And then we'll

Unknown:

she pees first. Let's do this.

Siobhan:

She, like, had a lot of, okay, it was funny. Dan, the owner the other day, was like, Oh, I like your he's like, Oh, what's that sweatshirt? And I was like,

Danielle:

I actually, I got this, you and I got one, yeah. City council

Unknown:

meeting, alright, alright. So back to back to reality. So we're going to talk about fucking bar etiquette, bar history of the place that we live in, Bay Area, or at least

Siobhan:

other little spice in there from Boston,

Danielle:

East Bay and San Francisco. I got a little loose guys.

Unknown:

I thought I was in a dungeon myself. I am from the East Bay, originally. All that photo, especially from a small island called Alameda Siobhan is from Danielle. Do

Danielle:

you even know where I'm from? I am from the East Bay. Oh, I

Unknown:

thought you talking so, whatever. But even though, like, we consider it to be like a Bay Area etiquette, it's, it's kind of a national general etiquette, you know, like you order all at once. Yeah, idiot

Danielle:

string ordering bullshit. Like, we don't remember things you never ask, I don't I'll ask you, right? You

Unknown:

never ask for it strong, because, guess what? You get less fucking ice. Like we're

Siobhan:

just less. Oh, I love that. That's my favorite question. When I make it strong, I'm like, do you want to double? And you're like, oh no. Well then you

Unknown:

want it strong, I'm going to pee in your drinks. Extra flavor. All bartenders, they, even though they were dreamed, we have a flap. So you want it strong? What we're going to Yeah, interjeans. You don't know this,

Siobhan:

but I don't have it. I don't know about it.

Danielle:

I missed that meeting. I

Unknown:

didn't learn about the peeing and people last weekend. It's

Danielle:

fair, yeah.

Unknown:

So I have a friend named Jacob. I love him. He's actually completely sober now. We call him babe Jake. He's got a huge beard. I. Yeah, he, he's actually graduating for the Maritime Academy right now in Vallejo. He's smart guy, engineer,

Siobhan:

Ducking reality.

Unknown:

You know who he is, but you know, he's actually my birthday buddy. We, we are a year in like, two hours apart. I love him. He's my favorite. But he, he was on the same path I was just drinking every day, working the same minimum, minimal job. He decided to take the route to become something kind of important. The company he worked in, he's doing it, and then he went to school, and he's been to Japan, Korea. Wow, that's amazing. I think Indonesia. I don't know, he's just doing a thing, but, like, he was a raging alcoholic. I got, like, I was slash, am getting better?

Danielle:

I wouldn't, I wouldn't put you on the Raju for a second, because I wouldn't put you in as far as like that. You don't.

Unknown:

I never crashed the car, but I never like

Siobhan:

we've all had our I'm glad that we know where the scale is, though slippery

Danielle:

slope when we're talking about bartenders and the way that we drink, because it's not how the average person does, either. But I just want to, as your friend, be like, I wouldn't put you in that. No, thank you. I'm very we still drink, but it is, is much more contained than any of us did on our younger years. I'm very

Unknown:

proud of him. I love him like I consider him a brother. I will never say like, oh, you know this one brother, because you guys all know Al, that's my brother, but he's a brother. He will. I could call him right now and be like, I'm coming to get you, yeah, even if he was wasted, he's not waste anymore. But, um, he was a part of that lifestyle that we lived in that was like, Oh, this bar is our bar. It's cheers. But also, like, half of his drink for free, for no reason, but he was, he was one of the the perpetrators where I'm like, Hey, Jake, what do you want? He'd be like, let me get this beer. Am i Great? And I put it down in front of him, okay? And that, can I get this to him? Like,

Siobhan:

Jacob, oh, string ordering. Order all at

Unknown:

once. When he caught on how mad I was, he would do it on purpose. Like, I was like, That's why Jake can't order for me

Danielle:

anymore. Ordering as a particular pet peeve of Follies. I

Siobhan:

had a woman the other day that did it, and I was like, yeah. Like, I was like, you have to be almost 50. Lady like, you have to know how to order in a bar. And, like, she asked, she's like, Can I have a beer? And I was like, Absolutely, what would you like? And she was like, I don't know, just a beer. And I was like, Can you give me a flavor, a kind of something like, and some it's like, or people will be like, I don't know what I want. What do I want? I don't know you. Why would I know what you want? What

Danielle:

do I want to drink? I don't know what the fuck do you want to drink. You

Unknown:

guys appreciate this. So, like, not last money, but like, two months ago, slow as fuck, whatever. I'm just doing my regular orders, and the guy walks in, IPA, great. I'm trying to ask him, What do you want? So, yeah, fucking put, like, numbers through and from, oh, it's too floral. I'm like, we should IPA, he goes to floral. I'm like, well, then what do you want? He said, What do you got? I'm like,

Danielle:

what the menu? Jesus H, tap dancing. Christ Yeah, no, I had that happen. This isn't a fucking movie. No, right? No. It's wild to me. The amount of people like you are a grown ass adult. I know you know how to at least marginally read. I know we we did discuss it. We have a very low literacy rate in the United States. However, basic motherfucking English, if you have a driver's license, you should be able to read a beer menu. Friend. It's very simple, and it even says, especially fireside. It says order by number. My favorite thing is when someone said, oh, I want this one cool. Which one is it? Because these rotate constantly, right? I don't know, and I don't fucking eyes at the back of my head, bro, which one do you want? You're 45 Yeah. Like, just know what you want. Or if you come in you ask me for a fucking chorus, like, well, I don't have that, but if you're not going to take a fucking PBR, oh, I don't want that. That's not right, sir, ma'am, I don't You're too classy for PBR, but you really, really love your like, Heineken, like, off, oh, my god, I love it

Unknown:

when so this, this didn't happen at fireside news before I knew what a sovereign citizen was, no Lord, like, 2018

Danielle:

19. Those are fun. I was

Unknown:

like, oh, like, this dude walked in with his son, fucking asked his son for an ID. He shows me California ID. I'm like, Oh, happy birthday. I'm like, well, since we're at it circumnucid, I would have one. Oh, why not? Well, you know, this is whatever the fuck. Sheila's the 51st

Danielle:

state of Jefferson.

Unknown:

He's like, I'm not, I'm not a regulated citizen. I said, Sir, do you have any form of who you are? I do not. Okay. Can't serve your son is welcome to stay. Yeah. He's like, Well, clearly I'm 50. I'm 57, eight, I don't know. And I go, Well, you kind of asked me to ID you and you don't have an ID. He's like, Well, I I just like, You know what? Dude I called, I called Al. I was just like, dude, what do I do with this guy? Kick him out. Yeah, I kicked him out. And he's like, I'm gonna make a string. Oh. Al, came down. He's like, Bro. He's like, how the you were growing ass, man, not having IDs. Like, well, IDs are regulated by the government. I'm not regulated by the government. And I was like, so how? How do you own a house? How do you have a car? He's like, Well, I bought this from a friend. I it's

Danielle:

well, and this is to be clear, like we're drunk, everybody, no, it's okay. I'm a little buzz too. We good. I'm just saying to to clarify for anybody who is not of the industry, or hasn't worked in the industry, I don't know in the last 15 fucking years, we don't want to be cops. We don't, I don't, I don't. I don't give a shit really whether or not you regularly have your ID or your license on you. But when you come into the establishment that I work at that at least in the in the state of California, God forbid, ABC comes in on a Saturday night. Doesn't matter how fucking old you are, if you don't have an identify of any like a physical ID, we the bartenders get individually fined, let alone $1,000 it's gone up. It's gone way the up. Because it used to be, well, it also depends on if you're serving a somebody under the age of 21 or not. But it used to be like eight to 10 grand, depending on what it was. Yeah, it's more now, well, you just said 13. And I was like, Oh, was it gonna but for a minor, like that makes for a minor, it used to be like, 10 grand, but like, shivering, all cozy, but no like, but we individually get charged, let alone the fact that then the business can have their their liquor license suspended for at least a month. And then there's other factors that people if. And now I, and I think this part of the law is bullshit, because I'm not going to take somebody's fucking keys. I don't know you. I don't know if you drove here or not, whatever, but if they go and get into an accident, and God forbid, you know, damage, property, kill somebody, whatever, we are somehow liable. We could be found guilty of a manslaughter for serving a person right and went and did this shit.

Unknown:

It's our saints, but not like accidental or like incidental manslaughter, whatever the fuck it is, but incidental, but yeah, in California, like the bar, the bartenders are not supposed to be held accountable, but you will get a fine for over serving. That's what was like two years ago. I don't

Danielle:

know. Well, I haven't I guess that's a refresh the RBS test thing. But that was years ago. I remember working at Dave and Busters, of all places, every two weeks we had to take a test of responsible alcohol service test, because you had to know how much alcohol, like a Long Island is like four drinks, right? Like, we have an ounce of each of these alcohols. So you had to know how much was in it, because you have to then monitor how much you're certain you start to be two Long Islands. That's a ton of booze,

Unknown:

yeah? And this is also, is exhausting as a bartender is like, you can monitor somebody walking in, they seem fine. You don't know where they've come from. Yeah, you don't know how much they've had.

Danielle:

I don't know what drugs you might be on. You know, there's all sorts of shit. And I'm not gonna assume that somebody's, did you take your, you know, your antidepressants today? That's not my fucking business.

Unknown:

I feel like, I feel like our bar is like, kind of like the end of the road, because it's like, you'll see people like, I'm not gonna share that guy like, up the street, or, like, you see him coming down from Wally's, and so you, like, you put your foot down, right? That's Hey guy, you can have maybe this shot of Jaeger, and you're done. And the next thing you know, I'll still put water in front of you at the same time. They're like, swinging at people. And then the cops come. Well, they haven't come like, recently, but yourself, they're like, What do you serve them? Like, I serve them this, and the cops always accuse you, like, right? Are you shooting? Oh, sermon, yeah. Hey, sir, I have cameras. Yeah, you can check. And they're

Danielle:

like, they came in hot. Bro, I did this one thing, this one because it didn't seem that bad. Well,

Unknown:

why did? Why? Why would you serve them? Came in hot? Like, first of all, people can manage themselves up until a certain point, right? They

Danielle:

made this last one that sent him, and I didn't know, and they're like,

Unknown:

well, we can, we can bar your bar, right? You bar 10, sir, no, I'm a cop. Oh, so you just hit women. And then they get mad when you

Danielle:

say you just shoot black people. Yeah, oh,

Unknown:

and then now you're the bad guy, but, like, I was originally bad guy, right? Yeah, it's just, it's crazy in the bar industry, because, like, there's so many people that can switch on a dime. I had a co worker who, you know, she get off shift, and you're like, great. Like, here is your Manhattan. Should be sitting there asking for music. Like, completely sober. Hey, do you want food? You want food? No, no, we're good. Then her boyfriend would show up and, like, Wouldn't even serve her. Just serve her boyfriend. And then, like, 1520, minutes later, she's like, No one loves me. I'm so alone. I look at him like, man, like, bro, what did you just do? He's like, Oh, this is just how she just happens sometimes, like, number one, she works here, yeah.

Danielle:

Oh, that's never a good look, never a good look. I was a we've all done our shit at places we've worked though. I mean, I would be lying if I said, I mean, been very drunk at places that I've worked, or even before I worked there. I mean, I was a regular at fireside before I worked there for like, a fucking year. I got kicked out of my own bar twice,

Unknown:

but I didn't work there yet, so I was shit house. Hello. Oh,

Siobhan:

oh, how come I I can't, do you have popcorn? Call me back because I didn't give me the thing to open the I don't

Unknown:

have popcorn. Alright? Anyway, so I was, I was not waiting for the fourth that's great. I was not working at the place that I was working at. I was just a regular, and I had mentioned to another regular that lost my ID, but they had known me. So the bartender, who, yeah, was like, filling me out. Was like, you had to get out. She's like, Fine, I'll leave. But my brother was still the manager at the time. She was like, What are you doing? I was like, I'm going home. He's like, to where I was like, mom's house, man. And he was like, get in the bar. I was like, No, so and so will not name names. I said, she can't. Said, I can't come in. He walked in. He's like, the fucking say she can't come in. And I was like, actually, whoops. But also this bartender 10, like Donna, she would like, take it a $20 bill for a $7 drink and give you change for $10 she was a hot mess because

Siobhan:

she was like, Thief, or, yeah, I was gonna

Danielle:

say because she was stupider, because she was a thief. That sounds like some thief, stupid. No, she was no, she probably played stupid. But then was like, I didn't know your change also, again, for the record, not every bartender, my job is not worth a couple dollars and tips. If somebody's afraid about No, I want to leave my top because you know what's speaking to bar advocate. You know what's annoying as fuck. If you know what you're going to be there for a few hours, stop closing out your goddamn tab ads. Hey, the paperwork. It's an annoying it doesn't mean that I wanted to. I don't give a about your credit card number. I'm not gonna sit there. I'm too busy. I got 20 other things to do then copy your shit.

Unknown:

Danielle, can we talk about who we want to talk about who does this? Oh, can't remember her name.

Danielle:

It's okay. It's not important. But I feel like we describe this person.

Unknown:

She closes out her card when she's in cash. Every transaction, I don't care if she tips $3 fuck up. I don't care

Siobhan:

if she tips I don't care if she knew the bitch she was talking about. I don't

Unknown:

care if she tips $3 for transaction. Just leave it open if you know you're gonna

Danielle:

have because now I'm gonna get taxed on that money, right?

Siobhan:

Okay? Like there's a fee for it, for the bar, there's, like, a Yeah,

Unknown:

card. I'm like, then bring cash, right? Now, she's bringing cash, and she's like, Oh, why are you charging me differently? I'm like, because you came during happy hour, and now you're coming when it's not happy, right? Yeah, some people's kids, this is why you don't have sex. I You all know who I'm talking about, and she's not able. I feel

Danielle:

like I know you're talking about, what is the drink order? No, tell me the drink.

Siobhan:

Yeah, I'm not sure.

Danielle:

Yep, I knew I knew beforehand, but I figured

Unknown:

that because

Danielle:

No, no, because when I'm not going to tell her about this podcast, two, two, it's, let's go to the thing where people are like, Oh well, my bartender, not all female bartenders want to go home with you. We don't want your number. We might be flirting with you, but doesn't even want to fuck you, help me pay my bills and thank yous don't do that. Please

Siobhan:

stop complimenting me and then not to tell

Danielle:

me that I'm pretty when I smile more. Okay,

Unknown:

Siobhan, she just take. Go,

Danielle:

because I will give you

Unknown:

and not, yeah, that's true. Because guess what to happen? You're going to see my butthole.

Danielle:

You know, Holly's getting for Christmas.

Unknown:

Take a picture, because, I mean, the other day, I had my god brothers coat on and my beanie on. You're like, you're a quintessential, like, California lesbian. I'm like, well, first of all, I'm a Midwest I'm a Midwest mom 10, like, any dude in one because, like, that's the difference the way I dress, like, in the winter, we're off on some other tables. Like, no dude in, like, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, be like, you're gay. Like, oh no, no, you just look yeah. But also, to be fair, I am gay, but I'm also cold. So, like, it's very cold out here. Like, we have, we have the ocean air in our Oh, my God, it gets colder here. I'm sorry, it gets colder here, like, different type of cold, yeah, because it cleans your bones. And my ex was like, when I went to, like, Michigan, she's like, Oh,

Danielle:

what happened was, she's like, You can't

Unknown:

handle a cold out here. I'm like, No, I can't, because there's a literal giant lake next to you, and I have the bay that has tropic winds coming. I get that, but like, I was in fucking Indiana, and I was just like, why

Danielle:

were you in Indiana? Because I thought I love someone. Oh, okay, that's fair. Yeah, I've been places for people. Don't move there, don't but here's my here's my unsolicited advice. I'm gonna show my bottle. Oh, my God, she really wants to show her butt hole. We'll make that happen at some point. I'm not against it. You do what you views you. It's actually like, it's pretty, it's pretty. I feel

Unknown:

like if we were like crazy, I

Siobhan:

Yeah, I'm a

Unknown:

Christian, if you alright.

Danielle:

Y'all, yeah, Donna's videos like my older sister on your phone.

Siobhan:

Alright, y'all you, y'all have met Donna too before Donna has been on it was, that

Danielle:

was a great episode. I love that episode.

Siobhan:

This is our cheers, bitches, I think. Yeah, yes,

Unknown:

I love your big ass. Siobhan, we went off on tangent. We're talking about bar etiquette. We're talking about bar regulars and how you

Danielle:

went off onto some other shit, and

Unknown:

if you don't act right, and then you're fucking stupid. Donna, first of all is the queen of getting called out if you do not act right. And I love it, she says straight up, turn your fucking phone up out of here. Stop banging on the on the bar. Oh

Donna:

yeah, it's annoying. I don't care if you're in a band. Oh, you were there on Wednesday that we have open mic night. Why are we there on Wednesday? Because I work Wednesdays not into open mic night. Yeah. But they get there

Danielle:

because they don't seem they don't know what time

Donna:

they start tuning. They start, oh, I don't know the water's right there, exactly back of the tank? I tell them, so this guy, he's talking to, I don't know some people, and Sarah's back in the back, and I'm and I'm just, I'm off, but I'm making food for her. And I'm like, This guy's fucking I got scorpions or some shit on in the background, right? Because they haven't started their crap music yet. And so I'm sorry, not everyone's crap, like 80% Yeah. I mean, it's like, oh my god, like a bag of cats being and so this guy's tuning his guitar right at the bar, talking to talking to these people. And I go, What the fuck is that, Sarah? What the fuck is that she's like, I believe. I go, who is doing that? Right? Really loud. She just looks at me because she's not gonna say nothing. And I go, get the fuck out of here. I came around like, I'm all you are you who's tuning their guitar? We got music on back here? No, it was my other guy who still tunes guitar, got his own picks out of credit cards. And I was like, stop making my pizza. I had the freaking like the brush in my hand, right? And I was all, dude, move Get the fuck out of here. Move on. And he was like. I'm tuning my guitar. I go, I know, and we're listening to music. So get the fuck away from the bar where you're turning your shit was like, but I'm choosing. I go, is the music off here yet? Get the fuck outside. Go away from the bar. And Sarah's just looking at me, and she's just like, I love you. Get the out of here, dude, like, go tune your guitar in the parking lot across the street in your balloon shop. There's plenty of room in that parking lot singing too, you know, okay, means

Danielle:

friend, okay. Means friend. Okay, before

Unknown:

you got here, we're talking about bar etiquette. My My big thing, and I was talking about was how I don't like how people walk up like your friend, and then they order one or two drinks in time, and then they're friends walk up. So I know, I think I know how. Okay. So, like, Alright, let me, let me what you want. Let me do Donna. Let me do. Donna, alright. So, like, five people walk in. So five people walk in, oh, God. She goes, Hey, hon. How are you? Hey, hon. And they go, let me get, like, a spicy Margarita and like a cider. She goes, Great, anything else? And they go, mm, hold on a second. And then like, six people walk up, and they go, Oh, what do you have on tap? Nana goes, Look at the goddamn men, order by number. And then they go, Okay, well, can I get number three? No, it goes, and, and. And and then they go, Okay, number seven. And she goes, what else? Oh, can I get a they go, Okay, this Manhattan. And she goes, and, oh, can I also get, like, this, Margaret, spicy. No room. She goes, what else? And they go, can I go? I can walk and chew gum. Give me another drink order.

Danielle:

I could do more

Unknown:

than one drink at a time. And they go, we're just going to have another two vodka sodas.

Donna:

Yeah, you know, like, if you walk up like a normal person and you're like, Oh, we got a couple people, but you know, we're going to have we're gonna have, we're gonna have this. And then I go, order by number, look at them order by number, because I don't know what's up there, right? And then they'll go, I'll have the old English, whatever. I don't know. Oh, I'm like, I'm just saying

Unknown:

big. Like, dude, she'd love that shit. We could get rid of that. Oh, my God, sell it for $2 a pack. No, but like, I'll have the old mail, whatever they're having. I just told you. I said, so Okay, so I gotta know we know each other for like about a year now. Siobhan and I've shown for like three years now. Donna saw me. We know each other for four years. We got it four years, a decade or two, right? But, yeah, I love it like so I had a couple people who taught me how to bartend, taught me how to order. So I had Donna. I had Boris. You guys, maybe no, Boris, not really. No. I feel like I

Danielle:

wouldn't remember the name

Unknown:

Boris, my brother, Al, my brother. Al, my brother was like, I patches. This is when Rocky. This is when last weekend had happy hour or whatever. So well drink for $2

Danielle:

sounds like a fucking caster on a Friday. This was 2009 2010

Unknown:

I was 20. Oh,

Siobhan:

that's right,

Unknown:

this is when I didn't really understand how things work. I was I was fresh, I was new, and I had ordered like, five well drinks. Didn't really know what was going on. My dad taught me well, so I left like, three bucks, okay, and five drinks. Donna looked at me and said, she says, Oh, you got I was like, I was so sorry. Oh, my God, I'm so sorry. You like coming here, right?

Danielle:

Sure, prompt service in case

Unknown:

you do, at least sell a drink. If you like meat anymore, not to learn, you gotta deal at the time when it was appropriate. You know, five, five bucks was like 20% but no, it's like, it's. $30 it's 20% but like Donna was like, you want to come back here, you better act right?

Siobhan:

Well, I mean, it's

Donna:

like people act like it's, they want to come there and they want, they want to be a regular. And then you like that Demetri, you freaking? You know that Dimitri? No, no. Dimitri was really bad for he was a rich Russian tennis player. Dad's

Unknown:

black card, yes, his black card. And he would, oh, and

Danielle:

when he came away with the black car, you better. Oh, yeah, okay,

Donna:

told him, and he'd stand at the bar. And because he I call him leg day. I don't even call him Dimitri, because I can't see and he'll stand there, like, oh, buff, like, and I'll go, what? How do you even stand up with those legs you need. Leg day, I was more buff than him, dude, more buff than his leg, and so I call him leg day. He didn't like it, but she answered to

Unknown:

it, crazy. Girl wasn't Oh, yeah, oh, Pamela. I'm like Pamela. How many names Did you ever know she's a whore? Okay? I apologize, but you know you're happy anyway.

Danielle:

Ever funny?

Unknown:

My brother took her card and I didn't I didn't know my brother took her card. So this is last weekend. So my brother took a card and she was like, hey, I want to close out. And I was like, What's your name? She's like, Jamala. And I was like, Pam, ma'am. And she was like, jamblin. I'm like, Pamela.

Danielle:

And she was like, sit her so dirty.

Unknown:

First and only thing is a bartender not ordering in. Don't string

Danielle:

order, remember your name, or don't be a shitty tipper. That

Unknown:

second annoying thing is a bartender, people don't ask. We

Danielle:

obviously know that, yeah, when you don't ask yourself and I say hello and you fucking ignore me, walk towards the back, oh, I will bust you out when you come back out, especially if you ain't drinking. Owe

Siobhan:

me $1 like, Hey, I just have Yes,

Unknown:

great. Show me dollar. If you just ask Yeah, show me and acknowledge especially thank you. No offense, no offense. But in my culture, in Danielle culture, tipping is like almost voodoo. It's like, why would I why? Would I tip you to do your job?

Siobhan:

I was gonna say, I think Danielle does not want to be in your culture,

Unknown:

like black folks, no different culture. Don't different culture. I know the two

Danielle:

white ladies are like, Oh my god. Okay, so I'm just gonna so there is something to be said. Also don't, don't malign voodoo like that, because that's a whole other thing. Is what you meant to say, Okay, fine, however, tipping, so the history of tipping is the fact that it started after the Civil War because they want to pay people very little money, and then you had to depend on gratuities. That being said, this is the structure that we have here, and a none of us want to work for free. I plan on going out. I'm just, I'm saying this to the listeners, if you plan on going out, be prepared to factor your tip into what the fuck you were spending if you were going somewhere for a service, because we were providing experience, we were providing something that you clearly don't want to or can't do at home. And so that's the whole point of it, right? And that's why we do what we do. That's why a lot of people like I was I loved what I was doing prior, because now I'm back to fully bartending. But my last episode, I wasn't doing control. That's for another episode, but it's it is great money. If you do it right and you're good at it, you are right, but you should do it right. But no, I know what you're saying. There have definitely been to get to your point. Sorry, I have worked in places. I used to work at the Olive Garden at fucking Southland mall, you know, yeah, probably take a whole bread basket, I know,

Unknown:

or get tipped in less than quarters, because

Danielle:

I'm speaking of going after somebody who didn't pay a tip. But I still do this now, because I don't care. Like, I've gone, we've all seen waiting, right? If you haven't watched the fucking movie, I absolutely did what Justin Long did in that movie. I've gone after people have been like, Oh, so you, you clearly need this more than I do. Like, I don't want your fucking penny. I did that. I got called out for it. Yeah, I don't give a shit. Like, I don't work. Like, I said, I don't work for free, and I. At it actually more recently. This was maybe like five or six months ago, but it was a fireside. It was a Saturday night, and these people came in on the first round, and they were all over, the age of 50, clearly, like, they're not young folks, young folks. They might give a little whatever, but I will still say something to like, acknowledge, like, you need to be better. Next time you come back, I'm gonna teach you, and you're gonna learn, and I'll be I'll do it in a good way where I'm not gonna scare you off, or maybe, like all bartenders are assholes. But like these fucking people, the first round they ordered, they ordered good whiskey. They were, you know, whatever, your first round for four people is almost$100 wanted to hand me, like, 250s and I was like, Well, it's actually, it's this much. Oh, well, we'll start a tab. I said, Okay, we'll leave the tab open whatever. Order another round. I didn't see when they closed out. They closed out with the other bartender who was working, and neither of us had looked at the actual I saw it because she just didn't. She set it down and I didn't see it. And the math was correct. The tip was absolute dog shit. It was I still remember it, because it was so bad. Their tab was $183 and with the math, it came out to, like, 197 and some change what? And I was like, exactly. So I went, and I was like, well, they still here. And we took that fucking receipt, and I came from behind the party, but I found him. I said, was there a problem with the service? Oh, good for you. Oh, well, no. Well, then I would expect you know that you would know if you could pay almost$200 No, at that point it should be like $30 yeah, if anybody's wondering But $5 for every 20 you're spending. But some people are like, $1

Siobhan:

a drink. No, like people say $1 a drink, still and like, it's $2 like inflation, like every doing that, they pay more for everything else. Why do they think that spending if you are in your 50s and you've been giving $1 to your bartender per drink, then you don't like your I

Unknown:

should be allowed to take him out back all day long, like getting pregnant the way you're going to do you're gonna do, I will personally go Dragons eat two ultimate I know. So I got hired as far as the camera because my dad was friends with the owners and he the owners, and Peter is

Siobhan:

that high? Oh, I did. I mean

Danielle:

they Cannabis Club now they're

Unknown:

like my aunt, my uncle does people. I love him to death. Peter like he's seriously like an uncle to me. He always took care of me, even though he was like a crazy German Gordon Ramsay, whip my ass in the shape. Like I can run a kitchen. Like nobody's business with him, but like him take a proper order.

Danielle:

Worst martender ever. She's not a shirt that said

Unknown:

it. I got hired back because of the recession all that shit, but like, Cindy brought me back. She's like, I can't bring him back as a server, but I'll bring you back as a hostess. And I had some really nice servers, no Tara and and Sandra. They're all

Danielle:

like, really good lives

Unknown:

in Germany. Oh, okay, but like one evening, one Sunday, because I work Sunday, like they had a shitty table, and I was like, you know, what? If I could do something for you, I'll do something for you. Because they, they would tip me beyond the 10% of whatever it was. They would tip me like 25% so I would walk like 75 bucks as a host, I think we all tip according to, like, we tip big. But this one night, this table d6 it's like, when you walk into spiders comics, like the first table inside the like, like the Beer Hall, yeah, and like, they're being a to Sandra. And she's like, I can't stand these people. Well, she's like, I am German. I'm speaking German. I'm like, do you want to speak German? She's like, No, you're German shit. I'm like, exactly, but they're being shit to her. So, like, I was like, Hey, how about if I go clear these tables? She goes, if you wouldn't mind? She's like, I can't stand them. So I walked over cleared tables and I just

Danielle:

Oh, mess with your food or your dress,

Unknown:

dude, like they just standing there talking to yourself. I was like, I was cutting the tables. I even looked like I made the eye contact. What? Made contact a little bit.

Siobhan:

Hey, they want their truck

Unknown:

right away. What did you do? I was like nothing. I. Yeah. And she was like, she's like, this, this is the root tables. Like, they're not coming back. Her boyfriend of time was this tall ass, black dude named Joe, and like, six from center. He's like, she's like, kind of driven by the table that, yeah, I farted. Oh, you can't do that. I'm like, no, these people like, you don't treat people like shit. I don't care if you're waiting on them. And I was like, 19, he's like, You can't do that

Danielle:

natural bodily function. It happened

Unknown:

to admit to it, they weren't coming back. Maybe they did come back at the same time, right?

Danielle:

Don't be an asshole like

Unknown:

everybody who's listening this podcast needs to know is nobody's your fucking slave. Everybody is doing something and the kindness of the heart, regardless of get paid or not. So if you want to run them like a dog, and I find out about it, you're going to smell my fucking and I don't care about it, because you're not going to know it was me, because you don't know what I look like. And guess what, when you smell it, when you smell really sad spinach and carrots, so

Siobhan:

specific,

Unknown:

I'm also your pictures. I'm a health nut. I'm a health nut. I had a lot of corn nuts. I don't get like, the way the Roman Empire worked, like, yes, but slaves still got vacations. They still got where did they get? Did they go to the arena or what? So I don't know slaves or slaves in the Roman Empire, but slaves were allowed to leave the premises, go to the bathroom, no as long as they came back, they could go, they could go the market, okay, chores, but they could go like they really live among they could drink. They could get drunk. They could horse, as long as they came back to their house of whatever calls seem, or

Donna:

if they had nice people that, but he'd say, own them. But that's what I watched, House of dragons. Did

Unknown:

you watch Rome? Did you watch anyways? I feel

Danielle:

like Barton is like the second oldest professional. You know, they talk about like, I feel like it is

Unknown:

fancier version of process.

Danielle:

We do flirt for tips.

Unknown:

I do not

Siobhan:

money. I made. Some people are rid of that, though, I would say on this side of the table, we probably flirt more.

Danielle:

Some guys like, when you're mean to them, but

Donna:

I mean, I'm just me, like, I'm just me, but I'm fucking but

Siobhan:

see me be being as fuck.

Unknown:

Yeah. A,

Donna:

in a in a mean in a fucking you and you're going to respect me, yeah, and you're going to come back again. And I don't care if your friends don't like me, because you like me, and pretty soon all your friends will like me too. Douche. He's an old man who writes stories? Oh,

Danielle:

wait, I know exactly who this guy is, because I know that he'll bring, he would bring Ben like, like, packets of stories

Unknown:

to come back on our etiquette. This motherfucker thought that because he was 85 years old from New York City and made it his way across the country, he could talk to me because he was educated. My favorite, the people who think we're first of all, first of all, yes, he was educated. But his cousin won the Nobel, the Nobel Peace Prize. So he came in and he said, so you

Siobhan:

got the left every day,

Danielle:

alright? So let me press the story, and I'm going

Unknown:

to use that one. So Sandy decided to not, like, replenish the neat cups, neat Yeah. And so then he goes, Oh,

Danielle:

I was there this day. That was amazing. It's

Unknown:

great. And I was like, he he was like, Hey, let me get this neat. I'm like, I only have these cups to offer you. And you just like, Okay, well, I want it in this glass. I'm like, if you want this drink, it's so instead of it being in like a tiny bucket glass, it was in a double bucket glass. Put it from me. He was like, what the sounds like? It's what I can offer you. So he, like, takes his receipt. He did tip me.

Danielle:

I didn't see, I didn't see the initial part of this. This

Unknown:

was like, two or three weeks or about a month ago, yeah. So he writes this whole note to Sandy. It's completely illegible. Oh, yeah, yeah. And he was. Like, Hey, give this a standing I'm like, no. So I threw it away. And I was like, whatever. This is the end of it. And then he comes in a couple weeks later, Terry May is like, we're in the back. Danielle comes in to, like, just Sean boss. My balls, because that's fun. And so he comes in, and he's like, six extra Darren. And he's like, this, this is the worst bartender in Alameda. And Darren's like, somebody said that. And Aaron's like, Okay, well, Darren leader, he's like, Oh, that's your opinion. And so I was like, what do you what the fuck do you want? And he's like, I'm gonna get a beer because that's all you know how to pour, yeah. And I was like, great, whatever. So I put the board beer in front of him, and then he's my number. He like, looks at Darren. He's like, this is the only thing she can do, right? She's the worst bartender ever. And I caught him saying it, and then Ellie, I was like, oh, save me. What are you gonna say?

Danielle:

This whole as someone who was sitting again. There was only like five of us in the bar, and they were wrecking timber there too. So yeah, total me and Tara may are sitting in the corner. We're in our own conversation. This whole thing happened so quietly initially that we didn't catch it. And then I heard her get loud,

Unknown:

and we're like, oh yeah. So I hear Him say to Darren, oh, she's the worst bartender Island. I said, You got something to say? He's like, Yo you don't want to pour a drink. I was like, okay, whatever. And then he like, pursue the same similar shit. So I was like, You know what dishwasher. I was like, fuck you. I grabbed his beer. He's like, fuck you. And I grabbed his beer, pour it out, and I grabbed his chains that I gave him, and I, like, went to the register to give him his actual$20 bill back, right? I like, I slammed his hand down. She's, like, trying to rip it from me, and it's a bit of a blur, but I just like, go fuck yourself. Get the fuck out of my bar. Your your kids hate you. I hope you don't die on the way out, she did say that it was kind of great. I was like, nobody likes you, your piece of shit, your narcissistic asshole, good for you. And fun fact, he likes he left, but he showed up the next day, and right he wrote Sandy a letter or story, what? And Sandy was like, What the fuck is this? And I was like, this is and she's like, That guy, yeah, that's when we got the text, like, he's out. Yeah, I think actually,

Siobhan:

you know who I saw today. I had stopped to see Michelle and have lunch. But, well, yeah,

Danielle:

oh, Michael, that they were,

Siobhan:

yeah, the white dude that like he's white hair red, yeah, white dude with red hairs as the

Danielle:

first month I worked at fireside, we 86 is that the guy people, he

Donna:

used to work at the high end restaurant. He came in again when you were gone, and he's 86 oh no, you're when Joel was back there, and Joel

Siobhan:

told, Joel told him to leave, yeah, did he come back in? Oh no, no. So he walked in, and I was like, Well, I think I'm pretty sure that dude's 86 from every bar on the island. And Joel was like, Okay. And I was like, I mean, I'm not sure, but I'm pretty sure he's 86 from every bar on the island. And Joel was like, Okay. And Donna's like, Yeah, I think so too. And so Joel just went over and was like, Yeah, you gotta leave. And he's like, it's because of that redhead girl down there. Girl down there. And Joel, just like,

Unknown:

looked at that girl in the bar. How are you already well, you know, like, it's like that little Fiat drive motherfucker the Baywatch.

Danielle:

He still comes around to the other night,

Siobhan:

he asked me if I've worked at the Benton for long, and if I knew Darryl.

Unknown:

Yeah, I think he's, well,

Donna:

he he's kind of Alzheimer you know, he's just a jerk. He's just Yeah, he is. He doesn't listen to anybody. And he's and like, whatever. When he was talking about he was talking about me, talking about me, yeah or something, yeah, and Pepe, peppy told him, like, he said something like, about me, like, which is probably true, but she was like, she's rude or something, she's rude. And I was like, and she said, and she's and he was talking about me, and she, you know, because we're all friends, and like, you're not going to talk shit about my friends in my bar when I'm standing there. And so she said, maybe if you weren't such a know it all rude little motherfucker, she wouldn't be

Unknown:

next, like, get out

Donna:

or something like that. And then he comes into the bar, because she kicked him out. So he comes into the fireside. Oh, wow. It's busy. It's Sunday. It's busy. Wait, how long ago was this

Danielle:

last year? He hasn't been a fireside

Donna:

this time. So he comes walking in the door, and there's a lot of people, the games are on, and I go, you, you want to talk shit, motherfucker, you could turn right around and walk the. Right back out of this. And he's all, what? Huh? I go, you think I'm not gonna hear about you talking shit about me. My friends are all bartenders. I said you could turn around, get the fuck right back out of here. I didn't. I all. I said, was your job's hard? I go, No, you didn't. No, you didn't say that. Get out of here. And he was all, and then Sandy comes up to me, she's behind the bar doing my dishes because he was busy, and she's like, Are you kicking him out? I said fucking angry. She's all okay,

Unknown:

all right, so now we're gonna get back on track.

Danielle:

Don't do 80 sixable offenses. So,

Unknown:

fun fact, we live in a town that I

Danielle:

so close to the mic.

Unknown:

So we live in a town that was a military town, and so what we're coming what we're coming off of is basically a couple of decommission ships, but we still have the echo of the military ID here. And so if you're from Alameda, if you've ever visited Alameda, if you know Alameda, you know that like there's a strong bar sense here, you get drunk on either side of the island. And now versus 15 years ago, you you kind of have to cab 25 right? But you know about 25 years ago, even 30 years ago, you could kind of walk into stumbling to a bar. Oh, yeah, and no, the history, the history that I looked up about this island is that you could literally, like, start on a Webster Street, walk into four or five bars and black out and find yourself on Park Street and vice versa, to dress on backwards. I don't know it wasn't

Danielle:

me. I just heard a story. A

Unknown:

lot of us who are from here know that we have a military background, not like saying that we serve their start, but like our family or brothers or dads, or dads all that like, you know we we live on this island, and we do respect the military presence to to an extent, to an extent, but we're also a very progressive Island. And so with that being said, it's kind of fun to talk about how it's changed so much from being a staunch cigarette bar smoking thing to like the burbs smacking some basil.

Danielle:

I can't do it because the way I talk at fireside another place is a lot different than I do in the fine dining mint

Unknown:

at work. We work in her like a seriously former military bar, like the bar, the bar was established strictly because, strictly because, like the sailors, needed somewhere to go. If you look at the geography of the island, you can see the hideout. You can see all the bars. You can see what was the other one, Susie Q's. Remember Susie Q is out there too, also sambos. Oh, that a restaurant. That was a restaurant on Webster, yeah. And like, so it's like, all these sailors, you know? But like, No, it was not a great name. But no,

Donna:

I know it wasn't. But like, that was, like, it was like a diner. But all the sailors

Unknown:

would come here and they would look for a place to drink. If one bar was full, they'd go to another bar. And that's, that's what, that's what Alameda was for. Like, I guess, till 7628 Didn't

Danielle:

you say there was a point in time we were talking about the other day they had the most per capita bars, like

Unknown:

the 90s? Yeah. So Clinton was elected in 1942 what? What this? What the status says is that San Francisco Bay Area had more bars per capita than any place in the United States, and that includes New York City. Yeah. Wow. Miami, Los Angeles and Wisconsin, the drunkest state. They really are so

Danielle:

brandy like weirdos, packers,

Unknown:

Alameda, before it actually gets redeveloped. You can see like the shelves of the bars that were here. And if you talk to certain people, you can find pictures of these bars, cool history, about school history. And if you grew up here, you don't necessarily like, want to like, revive it, but you also want to appreciate it. Because, like, if you go down Lincoln from where we are right now, we're on the base it's been redeveloped. If you drive down from where this podcast is, down Lincoln, you can see. At least four bars that are now just apartment complex, yeah, yeah. But they keep the signs out there, which is really hideout. One's really cool, the hideout in the timeout, but in 1940

Danielle:

yeah, there's the one that's on Pacific, Pacific Lincoln,

Unknown:

yeah. But so my grandmother, she was a transplant from Montana, and she worked for the military during World War Two. And she actually was on the base way before I was even born. And she always told me she's like, if you ever want to look me up, just find your find my files on the base, which is true. There's still files on the base from World War Two. It's caught. It is quite interesting to see all the that has happened. Danny, you're from Fremont. You Me too. You have slight military, like, understanding of it well, the

Danielle:

only time, I mean, before I lived here, like I grew up in the East Bay, but, huh, the Fremont have a military, no, it was really small. Well, Fremont, land wise, is a very vast it was like four towns. They turned into one in the fifth So, like Irvington was its own district, Centerville, Niles and Miles is still coming, but and then you had central or Centerville and Mission San Jose. So it was like five little towns, and then Newark was its own thing that now Fremont like in circles. But for me, I didn't spend time, like, I have family, like I My grandparents had a barber shop on East 12th Street in Oakland. But like, I never, yeah, black as fuck. We used to bring grandma and grandpa Scratchers on Sunday mornings with McDonald's breakfast, and we go play chess with old man. But like, I didn't spend time in Alameda until my brother was recruited or signed up for the Marines. And they would do there was still a somewhat more active Navy base. What year is that? Though? 2001

Unknown:

Okay, so and so

Donna:

Marines was act really active here.

Danielle:

They would do their PT, and we had our family days here. So I've been in, like the amphitheater, or not the amphitheater, but like the they have a theater where they would do presentations and show, like the video of, like, what boot camp was gonna be like, like it was all of this is that on Clement, I think so I'm trying to remember, because we had a whole, like, Family Day. It was on the Hornet too. So it was all around. A lot of these buildings are either gone now or they are just they've been uninhabited for like, 20

Unknown:

Yeah. You can look across the street there still, yeah. Well, we Yeah,

Danielle:

but it's funny because, I mean, I lived on Treasure Island for three years. It's the same, same thing, but, like, I've never even been there, yeah? What? Well, before they made it fancy, we used to joke like, you only take the exit of Treasure Island if you need to, because it's so sharp you might fucking die. Yeah, you know, like, just like taking that bus on the exit. Oh, my God, it's terrifying. But no, but, like, I had, I mean, there is that, but I really didn't spend much time here. I didn't know a lot about the history of it. Prior to living here, I spent the majority of my bartending years in San Francisco, which I'm back to now, but it's nice to have a on either side, because I didn't bartend much in the East Bay before I started working in the city. But there is a place, and speaking of places are boarded up that it's just still there near the Southland mall, actually, because I used to go there to learn how to play pool and drink a beer. After my shift at Olive Garden was the first place I learned how to Barton this place called Big Jorge's hollow leg. Yeah, the building is still there. And big Jorge, he passed, like, probably, like, almost 10 years ago now, and so, yeah, the building is just, it's sitting plywood, plywood up,

Unknown:

but it's got the big leg.

Danielle:

Yeah, man, that place that was wild. That's how I learned how to, like count shots out of a Yeah, because I didn't, we didn't like measure shit. He's like, You should get like, 26 to 28 shots out of or out of this bottle. And so that's how I learned how to just do a pork out. Someone

Siobhan:

asked me the other day, like, they were like, do you just do a count? And I was like, yeah. They're like, what's your count? And I was like, What do you mean? And he's like, is it? Like, how do you do it? And I was like, I actually don't know anymore. And he's like, what? And I'm like, I don't even think about anymore. I feel like,

Unknown:

if you pour a bottle, you can't four, like, you're maybe off by like, point one millimeter. Yeah, that also depends

Danielle:

on your pore spots. It depends on,

Siobhan:

you know, yeah, like, if my pore spots going slow, I know it's gonna be a little, like, with a prostate, yeah? Milk

Danielle:

it a little Yeah. Massage it a little

Unknown:

bit. I love this guy.

Danielle:

So much, amazing.

Siobhan:

Oh, the only thing she was, like, manners, like, I don't know where they went, but like, oh

Danielle:

my god, so much worse after COVID. Like, they were bad. Probably. Higher like, but it would feel like it's it was more common when people started going back outside, like they just forgot. I want to make a sign

Unknown:

the bar that says, hey, if you're between 25 and younger, it's,

Danielle:

it is. It's not even all just youngsters. It's just, it's

Unknown:

cultural to tip.

Donna:

I'll straight tell you. I will be like, I'm sorry. Like it. And then when people sign their credit card and they don't total it because they don't want to tip you, I'll walk right over and go, you need to total this, yeah, yeah, if you're not gonna leave a tip, whatever, but you need to total it, or I'll total

Danielle:

it, yeah, because I'm not having you come back and try to dispute some shit, right?

Donna:

Yeah, I said you need to put a total and you need to sign it, because some people just fucking just fucking it off, and they know what they're doing, right, you know? And I don't like that. I don't like that at all. Hey,

Unknown:

do you want to close this weekend? I don't mind closing, but I I got double booked to close and work the door. I

Danielle:

heard you said, I do the door. Dude, yeah,

Donna:

I'm working already 11 to fucking eight, yeah,

Unknown:

on Saturday, yeah, or 1130 to eight, yeah? No. Pearl is working.

Danielle:

So what had happened was, we'll figure that out after this podcast.

Unknown:

All right, back to the pocket we're talking about. We're talking about. We're

Danielle:

trying to wonderful

Unknown:

like it when. Okay, how do you guys handle when a fucking 21 year old goes Paloma if they don't want to plumber as

Danielle:

a 21 like this isn't your first time.

Unknown:

If I didn't work at this great bar, I'd be like, Oh, let me see ID, and I just wipe my ass. That's what I want. What do you what was your question goes to ID? I'm like, yeah, the

Siobhan:

same thing. I tell anyone that gives me that, like, I don't care how old you are if I ask you for your ID, like, I don't need a fucking story. I'm not looking at your phone. I don't want to take a fucking wallet, like, I love your ID. Like an adult, like, I don't care how

Unknown:

my phone. I'm like, great. I'm not gonna accept that to go. I'm like, do you have you ever heard of Photoshop? Yeah,

Danielle:

we actually that reminds me. A couple of weekends ago, I was closing, and we had, we were actually pretty busy. And we had a French guy. He didn't have coming back, we apologize. But it came in with his son who, look, I mean, again, the younger you look, this kid looked like he was a very tall 14 year old. Your balls dropped, I don't know, but your dad's standing here trying to order for you, like, Okay. And then it was a whole, was a whole thing of like, no no, but he's my son. Because I said I need to see his ID, he was ordering two drinks. And I was like, Okay, well, then who's the fucking second one

Unknown:

for? Thank you. I do that all the time. Yeah. And so

Danielle:

he's like, No no, but he's my son, and he's tried to pull it on his phone, and I was like, No, you need to have a physical ID. We're not doing this. And a military idea cutting five minute back and forth of this, and we're like, no, like, we need, we I need a physical ID, or you need to leave. I'm not going to serve you. I'm gonna take this drink back that we already poured for you. That's it. Yeah, I also, I'm not gonna risk my fucking job. In my life.

Donna:

Thank you. I like my job. I always go. I like my job, dude, sorry, like, you know, and I don't I, well, they're not drinking. I don't care. Okay, you cannot be any Yes, exactly. And I don't know why your kids running in here. Get it out

Danielle:

of here, you know, shoe.

Unknown:

Get it out of here. I'll throw a pint glass at it.

Siobhan:

Warns. The other ones, come back,

Unknown:

throw it out the door. Though, kids

Danielle:

are walking in for candy that Sunday. Oh, this was a few weeks ago. It was for Halloween. It was for Halloween. It was a day after we're doing inventory in the back, oh yeah, I was saying on the end, I was talking to Shannon, and these fucking, like, six, seven year olds started walking, and I turned like, Oh no, no, no, and their parents are standing outside. So why the fuck to see if we had candy? Don't send your children into the Yeah, it's a whole fucking bar. You know, it's a bar because y'all come here. It could. They don't,

Donna:

if they've never, oh, okay, they've been here. Because if you go into the eagle in San Francisco, send your kids in there, you know what? I mean, remember the eagle? Yeah, shoot. I They don't like they don't like us in there. I don't like the women up in there.

Siobhan:

Like, why would you send a kid into a bar? Like,

Donna:

I think people now, because we have food, think it's like, a Yeah, I

Unknown:

have one guy that, like, comes on Mondays. He knows I talked to him. I was like, your son can't come in here, but he, like, stays in the corner, and then, like, he drinks his two tall beers. And it's like, son walks into, like, the cove that we have, huh? And I'm like, Get out of here. Block. Your kid in the car, like we used to do right, roll the window down,

Danielle:

they'll be fine. He already, like, not even paid out. Like, no, I

Unknown:

look at him every time. He's just like, that's it. Yeah, I'm not losing my job, and I'm not

Siobhan:

getting fined, like someone because I said,

Danielle:

if you have, if you have, if you have $10,000 for me personally, right now exactly I told him that, then get the

Donna:

because the we get fined. But, yeah, we, as a bartender, yeah, like, that's like, and I hate, and I hate to call him out, because I love him to pieces. He's wonderful, but the the guy who falls asleep at the bar,

Siobhan:

so many names, like,

Donna:

I love them, I love them. But you know what? Do not close your fucking eyes at the bar, please, right? Like, I because you can't

Siobhan:

sleep at the bar, right? And we know he doesn't have the money,

Unknown:

and I don't have $5,000

Danielle:

don't even put your head down on the bar and if you look like you might be asleep and pretend

Unknown:

you're watching your phone,

Siobhan:

yeah, I've done like, the clap my hands as loud as I can across the bar and, like, yelled at someone, and they're like, no, no, I'm fine. I'm like, There's no closing your eyes at the bar. Like you have

Unknown:

to. Sometimes it's like, a weird thing, because it's like, yeah, he shouldn't do it. But then, like, you get the kind of like, the Okay, not for me.

Donna:

It's hard. It's hard, you know what? I go, go sit in the back, go sit at Sandy's desk and fall asleep, right? You know what I mean? Or like, sit at a lower table if you're even a little bit tired, right? Yeah, but I still do not want to see your eyes closed like I did. That's fair. That's

Siobhan:

her, like, Holly, dude, just thinking about the ID thing. I a group of girls come in, and they, like, went right back to the black table. And I'm like, I need, and I was kind of busy, so I'm like, I need your IDs. And then I'm like, Yeah. And I'm like, I need your IDs. And like, a couple of them came over. I'm like, I still need her ID. And they're like, yeah, yeah, she's coming. And I'm like, Okay, well, I stood there, and there's like, people waiting down here, and I'm like, Okay. And then I'm like, they're still and I'm like, I still need your ID. And they're like, yeah, yeah, she'll get it for you. Get it, man. And then I was like, What's you I, like, slammed down the things I had in my hand. I was like, Okay, everybody, nobody gets a drink until this chick gives me her idea. So let's see how this goes. And, like, she turns around and she looks at me, and I was like, I guess we're all just waiting on you when you're convenient, like, Donna's deal, right? And then she was like, Oh, well, I don't have an idea. Okay, yeah, now get the fuck out of my bar. Yeah?

Unknown:

Like, I'm always like, I love being a dick, because especially,

Danielle:

like, when, especially if you have a back room, though, because you know the whole thing of, like, I'm just getting everybody she's not gonna know, she's busy. It's like, yeah, best believe I will then sit there and ask you, what's your fucking address, what is yours? No, don't play with me. What's your fucking all of this. Then that

Donna:

walk into the back is a freaking what are they thinking, right? You know what? I mean, amateurs and all the Malibu and pineapple we get the fuck out of here,

Unknown:

Malibu that doesn't taste like alcohol. No, not really. That's why you ordered it. Oh, man. But I

Donna:

mean, like, and, you know, like, when somebody looks young and the other person looks a little older, like maybe 90 or whatever, but like they're messed up with somebody who looks younger. I don't want to make them feel bad. So you look about 25 so

Unknown:

I mean, he was quickly, like, like, 51 and like, he walked with a young girl, and he's like, and he's like, let me get this, this and this. I'm like, great, where's your idea? He goes, Oh, I'm ordering for him. Like,

Danielle:

you're ordering for her. I always I'm not contributing to

Unknown:

a minor. I like my job, dude. Sorry, yeah, I like my job.

Siobhan:

I've said to someone, like, if, well, do you want to pay all my bills? Because then we can talk. But not one time

Unknown:

was that brewery when I was still working there. He's like, oh my. He's like, he's 21 but he's he lost his idea. I'm like, great. I was like, what? Bring you on. He goes this free. I'm like, Cool. 13,000 he goes, What do you mean? Like, that's how much it cost me to serve your friend. He's like, You're a bitch. I'm like, and you're,

Donna:

I'm a bitch. Yeah, I am a bitch. But, like, you know, I told you to order by number, you know what I mean.

Siobhan:

Alright, y'all, I think we should wrap this one up. I need Danielle to drive my car home. Alright, yup. And thank y'all for listening. That's That was a wild ride here.

Unknown:

A little early redo this,

Siobhan:

yeah, to be fair, I was gonna

Unknown:

really sad. I'll do it better. To be fair, okay? I was

Donna:

like, what is what? When

Unknown:

I get her status tomorrow, yeah, I'll redo this. But I'm I'm just angry and sad.

Siobhan:

Alright, what happened? Well, we're all here for you, and thank you all for listening and enjoying our wild ride. We love you. Go find your joy today. You.

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